The past few months have brought intense levels of loss and grief to so many people in the UK and around the world.
This pandemic is a heart-breaking time.
We’ve not only found ourselves losing loved ones, but losing jobs, relationships, sources of income and the lives we’d built for ourselves in ‘normal’ times.
Within a short period I’ve been made redundant from my day job, my relationship has ended and we’ve had a bereavement in the family.
So I know all too well the intensity of both loss and grief – intertwined with each other though different.
My heart goes out to you if you have experienced either or both of them too.
It’s important for us to learn how to deal with loss and grief and get the support we need for our minds and bodies.
Unprocessed grief, like any trauma, can stay locked in your body and cause health issues further down the line.
So we absolutely cannot put on the British stiff upper lip, pull our socks up and get on with it.
Grief is multi-faceted and can trigger an array of emotions including anger, shock, depression, confusion, lethargy, anxiety and more.
It’s not as simple as just feeling sad.
If you are experiencing intense loss, grief, anxiety or other trauma due to the pandemic, I highly recommend you seek out some professional support. You don’t have to go through it alone (suggested resources at the end of this article).
Essential oils are another way that you can help yourself as you’re dealing with loss and/or grief.
The best way to use them is inhalation. When we inhale an essential oil the molecules go straight to the limbic centre of the brain to facilitate release and initiate healing.
Apply a few drops of diluted oil or a special blend to your wrists, neck or under your nose, where you can easily inhale them.
Never apply neat essential oil to your skin, and always test for reactions.
Here are some suggestions of the oils that can be most supportive:
Rosemary (Rosmarnius officinalis): For depression, confusion and lethargy
Cinnamon Bark (Cinnamomum zeylanicum): Helps with the anger associated with grief
Lavender (Lavandula angustifolia): All round comfort
Tangerine (Citrus reticulata): Offers hope and reconnection to joy
Cedarwood (any variety): Helps you feel anchored and find your footing
Cypress (Cupresses sempriverens): Helps you transition during the grief process
Melissa (Melissa officinalis): One of the best oils for shock and trauma, with a calming, sedating effect
Laurel Leaf (Laurus Nobilus): Provides courage and protection
Neroli (Citrus aurantium var amara): An anti-depressant offering strong emotional support
Rose (Rosa damascena): The best oil for grief. Gives a sense of being loved and mothered and helps repair the heart chakra.
Patchouli (Pogostemon cablin): Helps with bereavement and depression
Support for Grief / Loss / Depression / Anxiety:
NHS Guidelines on Grief:
Cruse Bereavement Care:
Hotline: 0808 808 1677
The British Psychology Society (find a practitioner):
Hotline: 116 123
Marie Curie Grief Support: